Howdy partners! So I just gotta say that I am uber overwhelmed by the response to my book review on Why Men Love Bitches. If you view the link you’ll find over 20 comments of women who have been the “nice girl” in a relationship and got treated like cow dung for it. Women have moved states, changed jobs, purchased killer baseball tickets, cooked dinners and “put out” all to be treated worse than most street puppies in Mexico. And I hate to say it, but it has simply been the results of these women just being “Too nice” to their undeserving male counterpart.

This ruckus has just gotta stop! And as the sexy sheriff of Http://honestchitchat.wordpress.com  I say the tune of the town starts to sing a different melody NOW!  My thoughts are that us women need to saddle up and drive those baboons away from our territory (of time, commitment and compassion) And instead start with a clean slate of land. And who will be gainfully employing in this land you may ask?”  I reckon it be the studly,  “MANLY” , confident, courteous, line dancing cowboy.

When you look for a guy you should in essence be looking for a “Cowboy” And to keep that cowboy you need to have to really, really LOVE YOURSELF and not put up with any cow dung! Everyone likes to go “boot knockin” but if you’re doing it with a baboon and not a cowboy that will not reciprocate your kindness you’ll end up with a  lot more heart ache and pain than you really bargained for.

So how can you verify if you are dating a cowboy? Ask yourself the following questions? Does he…

A.)  Pony up and ride on over to your barn to hang out?

*Because if he is really diggin’ you he will want his precious lass to be safe and sound in her home in the dark hours of the night. Not driving in the pitch dark through an apartment complex in South L.A.

B.)  Does he act like tossing cow chips is the funnest thing in the world when he’s with you?

*A cowboy could care less if he’s throwing cow chips or raking hay in the barn. Just as long as he’s with “his girl.” So MANY women commented that their dudes would rather watch TV/Play video games/ hang with boys than hang out with them. And they stayed in these relationships for 7 years!!!! If you’re guy is a real “Cowboy” he will enjoy being with you no matter what. And if he’s more attracted to Mario and Luigi than you than he probably has more issues than just social ineptness.

C.)  When you are hurt does he get you band aid?

*A cowboy doesn’t like seeing his woman in pain and will protect her at any cost. If she’s hurt by his actions he’ll apologize. If there is a communication mishap he’ll clear the air. He WILL NOT tell her she’s a crazy B-otch.

D.)  Is he a fun guy who takes you line dancing?

*Cowboys love to show off their gals! They take them line dancing. To picnics on the farm and teach them how to drive the family tractor. Their always proud to have them around. A jerk doesn’t hang with his girl on a regular basis. He doesn’t take her out. He never pays and he only sees her when its convenient for himself.

E.)   Open doors like a Southerner?

*A cowboy will open your door to the car. Make dates in advance. Walk you to your door. Tell you “You look beautiful tonight” and offer you their jacket. You need to find a man that will treat the way you DESERVE to be treated.

And alas, I find that for all of us women knowing how we “Deserve to be treated” seems to be the foundation upon which all relationships stand. As heartbreaking as it was to read the comments of so many women who had been hurt by men for so many years, I knew that it was only 50% of the mans fault the other 50% lay with the woman for not communicating to the man how she deserved to be treated.

When I set up a relationship with someone I show them how I treat myself and if they don’t comply then they will WANT to leave. Which has happened. But, the truth is I am blessed that there are men who don’t like me. Cause the truth of the matter is I don’t want to be with a guy who wants me driving to his house all the time which is 40 minutes away. I don’t want a guy who makes sexist remarks about women. I don’t want a guy who can only hang out with me past midnight. I don’t want a guy who asks me to pick up a six pack on the way to his house. And I don’t want a guy who doesn’t call me every couple of days. I believe I deserve to be treated better than that. The men and women in my life know that and my result is I have the most amazing friends in the world, they are people who care about themselves and the people around them.

Having said that I challenge all of you beautiful, smart, talented and courageous women to first and foremost learn to love yourself, to stand by your beliefs of the way you deserve to be treated and THEN go lasso you a fine cowboy!

Yee haaa!

Have a great week! I’ll post again this Friday!

HonestChitChat

P.S. My new posting schedule is Mondays and Fridays.